On Monday we quoted from Danielle LaPorte‘s new book The Fire Starter Sessions regarding enthusiasm. (Have a read here.) She has become something of a sensation when it comes to inspirational and motivating material. Her website has been described as “the best place online for kick-ass spirituality” and she herself is described as “scary smart, yet so kind and practical that she kindles the fire in you without causing you to feel consumed by the flames” and “a force of energy to ignite your mind and change your life”. Any one that is being described as that is worth checking out.
There have been many, many interviews with her. So we thought we’d choose some of our favourite questions and answers, and share them with you. She really does have a great perspective and way of approaching lots of common issues.
From The Happiness Project (Gretchin Rubin):
What’s something you know now about happiness that you didn’t know when you were 18 years old?
Happiness is a choice. Often, some “rising above it” is required, or some rigorous re-framing of a perspective. But you can intentionally shift your psycho-spiritual gears into a genuine state of happiness.
The most profound thing I’ve figured out about happiness, is that it’s the clearest indicator of deep wellness. I’m much less broody and moody than I was when I was in my twenties (one would hope so, right?) So happiness is, like, hipper to me now than it used to be. I used to think that cheery, regularly happy people were too “lite,” too…in denial of something. But I get now that happiness is the result of our core vitality and resilience. Peace is my new cool.
Is there anything that you see people around you doing or saying that adds a lot to their happiness, or detracts a lot from their happiness?
Happiness boosters: One of my dearest friends runs triathlons. She tells me the endorphins are like a bliss drug—and she proves that by being incredibly positive most of the time. I won’t be doing any triathlons soon, but I can personally attest, as can my athletic and yoga-practicing friends, that moving your body is the surest way to feel better.
Happiness detractors: My heart breaks for people who obsess about the past. Chronically replaying how you got wronged is putting a fat wedge between you and true fulfillment. Face forward.
Have you always felt about the same level of happiness, or have you been through a period when you felt exceptionally happy or unhappy—if so, why? If you were unhappy, how did you become happier?
During some excruciatingly difficult times in my life, it came down to this declaration / mantra: I will do whatever it takes to be happy. That resolve and devotion opened my life up so much wider. The expansion wasn’t entirely comfortable, of course. It meant I had to walk away from some things (brutal). It meant I had to find my edges, go to places I’d avoided, examine if my dreams were still the right size for my soul.
The learning brought me so much sweetness. I found new things—new theories, foods, cities, yoga poses, ideas, friends, new ways of seeing old friends, that brought me to new depths of happiness.
I made happiness the sacred priority. It worked.
From The Province, ‘interview from a bar stool’
How do you feel being such an influencer?
I still feel like me. I’m very intentional in everything that I put out. I don’t feel any weight about it at all. I don’t feel a heavy sense of obligation. I don’t feel pressured. I feel honoured, I feel excited. I feel a sense of joyful duty to do my best. Because it just feels better when I do my best. I’m obsessed with being useful. That’s really what underlies all of that but I never ever think of myself as a role model.
People keep telling us life is a process and we should be looking at it day-by-day instead of so far ahead. Is it a fine balance? What do you think about that?
Don’t you hate that? I have another take on that. Personally, I like having a dream. There’s things I crave, that I desire, that I want to make happen. I’ve always had a hard time when people said, “just enjoy the process.” I always felt very held back, I always resented that kind of advice. I just felt like, “piss off.” So where I’m at now is, I’m really clear it’s about the relationships. I would take the word ‘process’ out and say the journey is all about the relationships. Every great thing that I can talk about in my career has happened because of a relationship; every bad thing that has happened is because of a relationship; and it defines who you relate to. The love you give and get will define your whole career.
In your book you write that “Trust that art can support life.” What do you think the top action is that someone can take to make this a reality?
Make art. See, what happens is, people buy into that belief and they don’t make their stuff. I’ve worked with so many coaches who are worried — they get certified and they want to have a full clientele coaching and make the six figures — and I say, “Who are you coaching?” Not too many people. Well, coach. Do it for free. Get people in your living room and give it away. Put your signal out, launch, so you call yourself a coach and you build up.
You have to make art. Nobody comes knocking on your door to see your art. You have to put a bow on it and get it in front of people. You have to be flexible about how you do that. It might be that you perform for free at a party, or you write for free, or you do some kind of great presentation to get your stuff past the receptionist and in front of the person who needs to see it the most. I guarantee you, if you’re thinking there’s a deluge people sweet talking to reception, I can tell you, there isn’t. Because not enough people have the courage to do that.
And in my own journey, I have been so touched and amazed by how helpful successful people are. You have your pitch down you don’t waste anybody’s times. You never send an email that’s over half a paragraph long; you don’t go half-cocked. Successful people want to help other people be successful, but not enough people pick up the phone to find that out.
From The Suitcase Entrepreneur (Natalie Sisson):
What’s your passion?
Evoking the truth. That’s it. That’s everything.
What are the 3 truths readers of your new book will be illuminated by?
That “the easy way” is not only attainable, it’s revolutionary. Grace and ease and letting the good stuff flow allows you to be phenomenally productive, peaceful, prosperous. Intensity and discipline are always essential but I’m talking about not fighting with your true nature and leveraging the momentum of that.
That learning to say “no thank you,” will make you a better entrepreneur.
That it’s better to have a simple, authentic dream that lights you up, than a big fake dream that makes you anxious.
These are merely a peek at some of Danielle’s thoughts. As we said, there are lots of interviews with her out there so you should definitely take a look. And of course, we fully plan to have her answer our seven questions!
What do you think about what she has to say? Are you convinced? If not, why? As we said on Monday, one half of H&P is exploring her new book and so far it has been pretty good. We will update you as we delve deeper into the chapters. Let us know if you have read any of her material and what your thoughts are.
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